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We all experience relationship tensions and fall outs due to miscommunication or misunderstanding. However, how we choose to react is our doing.

We’ve probably all been guilty of ‘listening to reply’ rather than ‘listening to understand’.

How we’re feeling in ourselves and what’s on our mind at the time can have an impact on how we filter the information we hear and how we react. We try to justify our behaviour. However, the stark reality is we still had a choice and we chose to behave in that way.

There’s a great quote by Eleanor Roosevelt, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

In the heat of the moment it’s hard to apply and the emotional ‘tug of war’ ensues. However, acknowledging that we are in control of our thoughts, feelings and behaviours is the first step towards empowerment.

Don’t live your life in victim mode or in a perpetual ‘tug of war’. Such behaviour serves no positive purpose and can only destroy your wellbeing. Seek to understand, apologise, forgive, let go of grudges, choose wisely and restore peace in your heart.

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